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The no-nonsense approach to healing from narcissistic abuse.
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Is Building Change right for me?

  • ⁠Do you hate saying no?

  • ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs?

  • ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough?

  • ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden?

  • ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help…

  • …⁠but do everything for everyone else?

  • ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?

If you said yes to two or more, Building Change can help you.

Does this sound like someone you know?

Signs of overt narcissism

  • They’re extremely self-centred, and find ways to make everything about them

  • They’re controlling and manipulative, making you feel guilty if you don’t comply

  • They feel entitled to your time, money, information and even access to your family

  • They refuse to apologise or accept responsibility for mistakes

  • They’re always the victim, and will criticise anyone that challenges them

Signs of covert narcissism

  • They’re critical of everything, nothing is ever good enough

  • They control you with a “look”

  • They guilt trip you when you try to say no...

  • ...and give you the silent treatment if it doesn’t work

  • Nothing is ever their fault, and if it is, there’s a good reason for it

  • They’re the victim or the martyr, whichever makes them look better in the story

Narcissistic and emotional abuse can lead to issues like: Complex PTSD Chronic stress Anxiety Depression Emotional dysregulation
Low self-esteem
Lack of confidence
Building Change can rebuild your confidence and reduce anxiety, surrounded by a community of people that 'get it'.

Building Change gives you the tools you need to recover from narcissistic and emotional abuse, and we're with you every step of the way.

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Expert-led and highly specialised

A programme packed with practical tools based on 10 years of clinical experience. Learn how to rebuild your self esteem and rediscover your identity.
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Track your progress and view on demand

Videos, reflections, live sessions and guided exercises that you can start using straight away. Gain the knowledge you need to thrive after narcissistic abuse.
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We're stronger together

Our community understand what you’re going through. From community newsfeeds to private chats on the topics most important to you, such as parenting or navigating no-contact. You’re never alone.

Why should you choose Building Change?

A programme drawing on extensive clinical practice to help you recover from narcissistic abuse
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Meet Helen Villiers

Best-selling author, podcast host and expert in narcissism, parentification and childhood trauma.
Helen Villiers LLB, PG Cert, PG Dip, MA is a psychotherapist with a Masters in Working Therapeutically with Adult children of Narcissistic Parents, and specialising in Autism and ADHD.

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Our Plans

Level  1
£85.00
  • Self-paced video lessons that educate, inform and gently challenge.

  • On demand videos, with fresh content released several times per week

Level  2
£97.00
  • Everything in Level 1 plus:

  • Weekly guided exercises and practical tools to apply your learning

  • Follow week-by-week alongside video lessons

  • Expert-led weekly calls where members’ issues and problems are tackled head on in a dedicated space that complements the courses

  • Private community - surround yourself with people who support, encourage and inspire you.

  • Private chats that are relevant and important for you, such as parenting or navigating no contact.

Level  3
£120.00
  • Everything in Level 2 plus:

  • Bonus monthly Q&A call with Helen, focused on specific topics or shared problems, limited to Level 3 members

  • An opportunity to ask questions and check in

  • Our most comprehensive level

Frequently Asked Questions

The toxic person in my life isn’t a parent - is this programme for me?

Abuse isn’t limited to just parents. Whether you’re struggling with a family member, partner, friend or colleague, our programme will equip you with the tools and knowledge to recognise unhealthy patterns in all of your relationships - and how to break the cycle.

Who will be able to see my workbooks?

Although materials are provided, your workbook and reflections are completely private. You won’t be quizzed and there are no deadlines - they are for your eyes only, and you can repeat them as often as you like.

What topics are covered in Building Change?

The programme is highly specialised, and built based on extensive clinical experience and feedback from our community on the things they struggle with the most. Topics include managing triggers, boundaries, emotional permanence and so much more.

Is Building Change the same as therapy?

Although Helen is a highly qualified therapist, the programme is designed to complement existing therapy, or for those looking for support and community outside of therapy. It’s not intended to replace medical or psychological treatment.

I don't want to share my name. Can I use a pseudonym in the programme?

Yes! Once you’ve signed up, change your name in your account settings and this will be reflected across the site for posting and commenting. You can also post and comment anonymously. This won’t affect billing, but will change your display name. Please note Zoom names are NOT automatically updated so be sure to change this in advance of calls, if you prefer.

How is this programme different to Patreon?

If you were a member of our Patreon page, you’ll be delighted to know that access to previous episodes of The Freudian Slip is included within all membership levels. Building Change allows us to offer a larger variety of content, more comprehensive coaching calls and form deeper connections within the community.

If you prefer to keep your Patreon membership instead, you’ll have access to all previous content for as long as you remain subscribed, but all new content will only be available through Building Change.

What is your refund policy?

Building Change is a monthly membership programme, with three different tiers available. Because our content is online and instantly accessible, refunds can’t be offered. Please familiarise yourself with our full terms and conditions including payments and refunds are located here.

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